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GoGuide MagazineIowa City + Cedar Rapids + Des MoinesStreet Wise GoGuide Exclusive: A success story on how one gay man found his way home; pages 10-12A picture worth more than a thousand words; pages 30-31GoGuide readers use this link to take the survey: http://survey.communitymarketinginc.com/se/359D342B41DAB587?CMID=212GRAB A COFFEE. TAKE A SURVEY.CHANGE THE WORLD. M A K I N G A D I F F E R E N C E I S E A S Y.Take the 13th Annual LGBTQ Community Survey ÂŽ Join 45,000 LGBTQ citizens from 150 countries to readers take the largest survey kind! GoGuide use this link of toitstake the survey:LGBTQsurvey.comhttp://survey.communitymarketinginc.com/se/359D342B41DAB587?CMID=212Community Marketing & Insights is Proudly LGBTQ-Operated, Founded in 1992. Your survey information is confidential and secure, used for research only. You will not be contacted for marketing purposes. Learn more: www.CMI.infoVol. 3; Issue 7 April 2019 GoGuideMagazine.com Facebook.com/GoGuideMagazine/ Publisher, executive editor Tim Nedoba Cedar Rapids-Linn County Editor Julia Freeman Iowa City-Johnson County/Des Moines-Central Iowa/Political/Features Tim Nedoba Theater Editor Matthew Brewbaker Music Editor/Operations Gregory Cameron Columnist Erik Sosa Design GoGuide Media Website Development AIT, Inc./GoGuide Media Contributors Gregg Shapiro Terri Schlichenmeyer Local Sales Reach Out Marketing, LLC www.ROMLLC.us timr@romllc.us (319) 800-3223 National Sales Rivendell Media (212) 242-6863 Contact GoGuide Magazine at info@goguidemagazine.com or call (319) 800-3223Summer has sprung in this selfie provided by Blanket the Cat.Table of Contents April 2019 “Proudly covering the LGBTQ community since 2016”LifeCultureErik’s World pages 6Inside Corridor Theater pages 19-20News Briefs pages 8-9 Exclusive: Street Wise pages 10-12 GoGuide Election Guide with Marianne Williamson; pages 13-15 Health LGBTQ Cancer Rates Page 16Your View LGBTQ day at the Capitol Page 17Q-Music pages 21-23Book Review page 25-26Scene Travel Atlantis Cruise pages 28-29GoGuideMagazine.comGoGuide Magazine & GoGuideMagazine.com are published by GoGuide Media. Contact us at info@goguidemagazine.comSpring has Sprung at Iowa Artisans Gallery!Exclusive: Street Wise pages 10-12Handmade and Local Art by over 250 artists!Iowa Artisans GalleryCelebrating 35 years!Iowa City, Iowa207 E Washington StreetShop in store or Online at iowaartisansgallery.coms ’ k i Er d l r o wPerseveranceA column by Erik SosaNewborns are miracles as they arehormonal tween. What is a tween? Simply put, children ranging from 9 to 12 are considered to be pre-adolescent because this stage in life they are said to be “between” years. Kind of like Britney when she quipped she wasn’t a girl, but not yet a woman. In my opinion, tweenagers are basically needier and more emotional versions of toddlers in near-adult appearance. For those considering having children in the future, take heed of this PSA. The surgeon general warns that tweens are hazardous for your health. Tweens are notorious for raising blood pressure, while, simultaneously, telling anxiety to come out and play with tension. Also, try to remember that you know you are in the presence of a tween when an invitation is needed to enter their space. And last, tweens, who only really care to understand the BEST or the WORST of things, believe that their electronic devices are“EVERYTHING!”perfect bundles of love. Toddlers are amazingly beautiful pudgy creatures that mostly concentrate on eating, pooping, sleeping and either smiling or crying. Preschoolers, similarly, are a great joy to play with, guide and mentor as they start to become self-aware. Sadly, too soon childhood innocence begins to fade, and patents are given glimpses of the person their child may become as they move through those formative adolescent years. Adolescence is more than a tad complex as boys and girls start to assert themselves in this dynamic world. Loudly and proudly they exerLet me just say that when Cole and cise their new found voice by optiParker started to transition into mizing their selective hearing while their tweens, I was at a loss. No mouthing back to anyone or anything often disliked. Honestly, though, it’s astounding to see how easy it is for some parents to turn a blind eye and disregard this catalytic behavior all in the name of social and cognitive development of their baby Einstein. Which, in turn, leaves us with the creation of a moody prepubescent Page 6 | GoGuide Magazine | April 2019joke, almost overnight, my world was turned upside down because I honestly felt like I was living out a scene from the movie, Invasion of the Body Snatchers. For example, when I asked Parker why he wasn’t doing his homework all of a sudden, he responded with, “Because I didn’t want to do it.” It was as if his balls grew and dropped overnight?! Oh hell, No! I know I didn’t raise no delinquent! But alas, the parenting that was acceptable when I was growing up is grounds for child abuse today. So, I quickly had to learn to manage my behavior and composure when defiance made its debut at the Sosa-Kibby house. Tween behavior is no laughing matter and a real rude awakening to parents because things can go very wrong very quickly in this day in age. It was a shock to one’s system when a child you have been raising for so long, with specific rules, ethics and standards, has, in essence, disappeared. Listen, when you notice your child has gone missing, everything you knew about parenting has to be re-evaluated honey because parent-hood just turned a corner and entered the twilight zone. And if one is to succeed and not lose a child to the dark, because that’s what if feels like at times, a parent must learn to adapt and find new ways to communicate and engage with their tween that they think they can no longer relate to or recognize. Managing and circumnavigating through these tween years will be a test of your love, patience, and ability to forgive and move forward. Hell, at times I even wished my gifts had come with gift receipts. I know what I just said may have sounded insensitive, but there is no need To judge my transparency. I have come to understand that no matter how tough raising children is or even may still get, I would adopt again in a heartbeat because just one of the positives from this whole experience outweighs all the negatives combines. Moments of rage, confusion, misunderstanding and the occasional questioning of self is entirely acceptable. As humans, how are we to grow and learn beyond our capabilities if we are not pushed by others. In mid May Cole and Parker will be turning 13 their teen years will add to the complexity their journey, and I can only pray that I can be with them as they push my emotions to where all I understand that works is love, forgiveness, and perseverance.GoGuide News Briefs The Fate of Coralville PrideFest now in doubt GoGuideMagazine has decided that it is not within its mission to be a lead organizer of this event or any event of this type. At this point, no organization or group has offered to take over the responsibilities of organizing such an event. The event had an incredible organic groundswell of interest, and many commented it was time for Coralville to have its celebration of LGBTQ Pride.UAY’s 14th Annual Festival of Flowers May 23, 2019 According to UAY’s event Facebook page, the Festival of Flowers is a creative fundraising event that supports UAY’s outstanding work with youth and families in Johnson County and surrounding areas. Professionals, amateurs, and youth are invited to submit entries of floral art, fresh flower arrangements, and container gardens which are displayed, judged and auctioned off.If anyone is interested in becoming the official organizer of the event, please email info@goguidemagazine.com. There are some things in place that you may like to access.This year’s entries will be inspired by the theme of “Coexisting,” an idea borrowed from the downtown Iowa City Mural Project created by Sayuri Sasaki Hemann GoGuide Magazine is proud to spon- and UAY Youth this past summer. sor as many events as possible including Mission Creek Festival in 2019 The Festival of Flowers event ofand Iowa City Pride in past years. fers wine, hors d’oeuvres, music and GoGuide has also sponsored sever- a silent auction between 5:30-7pm. al One Iowa events and many more. GoGuide will continue to sponsor as A live auction featuring award-winning many non-profit events as possible. floral designs and other high-end packages begins at 7 pm. All proceeds benThe original event was scheduled to efit youth and families served by UAY.place Sunday, September 1, 2019, at Coralville Center for Performing Arts. h t t p s : / / w w w. u n i t e d a c t i o n f o r y outh.org/ for more information.GoGuide News Briefs One Iowa’s 10th Annual Gala Sold outLGBTQ Youth Center Presents “Born this way: 2019 LGBTQ+ PromAll 1200 tickets were sold one month GBTQ Youth Center Presents “Born in advance of the 10th annual gala. this way: 2019 LGBTQ+ Prom The Center provides a safe and One Iowa started its annual Gala Cel- confidential environment for ebration tradition in 2010 to com- LGBTQ youth, families and allies. memorate Varnum v. Brien, the momentous Iowa Supreme Court case Programs at the Center are diverse and making Iowa the third in the na- include support groups, unique art oftion to embrace marriage equality. ferings, mentoring program, Pride Café, community service, health initiative Since then, LGBTQ Iowans and al- classes, parent workshops, financial litlies have come together each year eracy, tutoring, and career exploration. to celebrate and honor the LGBTQ advocates working to preserve and The Center is located at The Esadvance equality for LGBTQ Io- tle Center, 1030 5th Avenue SE. wans. This year marks ten years since that momentous decision. Get dresses up and join us for this free event! Inclusive of allies and LGBTQ+ One Iowa Executive Director Dan- Community Members RSVP to Lori Amiel Hoffman-Zinnel said, “Coming pey at Lampey@tanagerplace.org Thank together as a community to honor you to the following sponsors who have our successes, celebrate one anoth- made this event possible: Toyota Financial, er, and enjoy each other’s company Go Daddy, Giving Tree Theatre, Fox News. is truly an inspiring experience. Selling out over one month in advance The event is April 20, 2019, from and hitting capacity for the ballroom 7:00 - 11:00 pm. The event is FREE. is unprecedented for this event.” For more information visThe event is Friday, April 12 at it https://www.tanagerplace.org. the Community Choice Credit Union Convention Center.GoGuide Magazine | April 2019 |Page 9GoGuide Exclusive:Street Wise “Helping the Homeless”By Julia Freeman & Tim Nedoba Editor’s note: this is first in a multipart series.Some people live in exile for a lifetime, others for a few years, for an Iowa man it was 11 months on the streets of Chicago that laid the framework for a life-changing chapter of a life story to be crafted. In an exclusive interview with GoGuide Magazine, he shares the events that led up to his becoming homeless through no fault of his own as well as the role his now-friend played in helping him get off the streets. He now finds himself able to give back through sharing his journey, experience, and sometimes his spare cash with others in homeless shelters in Illinois, Iowa, and Wisconsin. “Growing up, If I ate a piece of pie taken from the kitchen table, I got beat up by my stepfather.” This type of abuse was repetitive until he was nine; he is now 47 and asked to remain anonymous. “I am the only one of my siblings that is gay and endured this abuse from my stepfather so despite growing up in the suburbs, eventually, I became a ward of the state of Illinois. I got Page 10| GoGuide Magazine | April 2019placed in a group home where I was the only white kid. This situation was a new experience for me. I eventually embraced my new family and developed several close friendships.” Later in life, he learned that one of his closest friends had died of a heroin overdose. He never got the chance to say goodbye. “My school experience was horrible. The teaching was designed for the level of the ‘lowest’ person in the group, so I never reached any high school level education. I did graduate from junior high and was placed in Jane Adams Hull House until the age of 21 when I aged out of the system and found myself alone and homeless on the streets. I didn’t have a family home in which I could return. I spent 11 consecutive months on the streets.” He slept on various park benches, under playground slides, and any other safe place he sees. The youth group home helped prepare him on how to carry himself. It didn’t prepare him for finding a permanent home or a safe place to sleep. In the winter months, there were available shelters. During the summer months, it was much different with most shelters closed. Finding a safe place to sleep wasn’t always easy. In many cases, he had to use his “street smarts” to find a place to stayand possibly get a meal. This meant finding a “friend” to take him home for the night. This was, of course, very dangerous and often the night’s outcome wasn’t what he wanted or expected. As a result, he was forced to “sleep around.” Often spending each night with a different person. His lack of education did hinder him in discovery about gay culture, which he regrets having to learn later on. Of course, there were always the bathhouses, but they required money.have to be homeless if they don’t want to be. I now know that nobody is homeless-proof, just like nobody is bulletproof, and that it could happen again,”At age 24 he was shocked to learn that he was HIV positive. In 1995 at a routine doctors appointment a liver test was needed before he could start on an acne medication. Instead of learning whether or not he could start taking Accutane he instead learned that he had the virus that caused AIDS. He was HIV positive. This was still a death sentence in the mid-1990s. “I was scared, and I didn’t know where to turn,” he said.show up at the right time.”He believes he was infected at a Chicago bathhouse in 1992. He wasn’t willing to divulge information on how he was able to trace it back to that year given that he probably had several potential exposures. Although he generally never asked for help because he didn’t know how and was embarrassed. “I firmly believe that many people do notDuring his time on the streets, he also became a larger music fan because he could relate to being homeless in many ways through the lyrics of his favorite songs and artists. His primary advice is “to not give up or let bad things keep you down. You never know when the right friend willComunity Resourcses More than 25% of former foster children become homeless within four years of exiting the foster care system. There are an estimated 5,000 people nationally that are adult products of the foster care system, all lost in the transition from child to adult classification. The rates are even higher in the LGBTQ community. A lack of resources and appropriate education are aspects of life that many exiting a group home and foster care placements face in joining the larger adult world without adequate support systems. The majority of people that are homeless expeContinued on next pagerience shame and embarrassment about their living circumstances that prevent them from asking for help directly from loved ones; therefore, a novel support system is formed from community resources. There are community resources available for persons seeking support services such as employment, housing, and mental health recovery. Much of the regional resources are divvied for adults, especially veterans, with few for youth. Many of these shelters or programs are faithbased, seem too much like charity to those receiving support, and lack critical elements as outlined in part one of this feature. In Linn County, Willis Dady Homeless Services provides emergency shelter, while Waypoint is the central intake hub of resources and has an associated refuge.son. Notably, the subject of part one of this series faced a history which took a toll on his psyche and mental wellbeing. Within Johnson County, beyond the counseling departments of educational institutions for students, organizations such as UAY provide counseling for young (12-23) people and Crisis Center of Johnson County also help with furnishing and connecting people with mental health assistance. They each also have housing and social service case management branches. This comprehensive, all under one roof structure helps in connecting people without adequate transportation or resources to be assisted. Foundation 2 offers individual and group/family counseling to youth shelter occupants. They also serve all of Linn County in providing mental health services, including those in crises.Statistically, homelessness amplifies poor mental health outcomes across diagnoses. HIV, for example, is more In Iowa City, the largest city of common in people that have high Johnson County, organizations such levels of psychological distress. Atop as Shelter House and Hawkeye Area the threat of health, there are also Community Action Program and factors of safety and security that United Action for Youth provide the plague many people that are homegeneral public with dualistic preven- less due to high volume and traffic tion and intervention forms of aswithin the shelter. Conversely, people sistance. This is not an all-inclusive with mental health challenges are list of temporary shelter and housing more susceptible to personal vulnersupport for either county. ability, disaffiliation, and poverty; thus their chances of homelessness The majority of emphasis across Iowa risk increases. Therefore why orgais a “housing firstâ€? model focused on nizational partnerships and collabohomelessness prevention and emerration seek to create supportive and gency shelter for residents in need of non-threatening atmospheres to such assistance regardless of the sea- combat both afflictions and solve the crisis directly. Page 12| GoGuide Magazine | April 2019GoGuide Election Guide: The 2020 Iowa Caucuses GoGuide goes one-on-one with 2020 Presidential candidate Marianne Williamson Editors note - This Q&A is second in a multipart series with 2020 Presidential candidates leading up to the Iowa Caucuses.Join the Evolution The Williamson campaign is taking the Iowa Caucuses seriously. To date, Marianne Williams has made eight trips to Iowa, both in her exploratory committee capacity and now as a candidate. Additionally, the campaign has several upcoming events planned for this spring. On her campaign website Marianne Williamson sums up her campaignthis way, “It is time to let go of an old and tired political conversation and forge a new, whole-person, heart-centered political dynamic. I hope you will join me in this evolutionary effort. It is time to create an entirely new phase of America’s story; one in which we repair what needs to be repaired, pull ourselves up from the mire into which in too many ways we have descended, and forge a better future for ourselves and those we love.”Q&A with Marianne Williamson GoGuide (GG): Do you feel good about where you’re at now so far out from the Iowa caucus? Are you all in for the Iowa Caucuses? Marianne Williamson (MW): I do feel strongly about my position in Iowa. I was the first candidate to have a virtual captain assigned for all 99 counties in Iowa. I have also moved to Iowa to understand the needs of all Iowans better, doing small group meetings in cities and towns all across the state. Doing so has not only affected me as a candi-Photo from campaign websiteContinued on next pagedate, it has changed me as a citizen of this country. It is so important to be on the ground and to see the genuine fears, fru
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